I have wondered why I was reluctant to talk about it earlier; he has been ill most of his life to a greater or lesser degree and it has given us both a huge insight into the realities of the NHS. I think there were a few reasons, including the privacy thing but honestly, I think mostly I wanted to avoid any sense of ‘using’ the experience. It was too painful, too real and too important to think I might get some mileage out of it when I talked about it, I didn’t want to be accused of wearing it like a badge, or constantly having my heart on my sleeve or being mawkish.
I spent some time the week before last with a group of academics, consultancies, faculty and others involved in designing our new core programmes. We opened the session with an incredibly powerful patient experience told to us by a remarkable man who has gone through a very traumatic journey with the NHS. In the work groups, we asked everyone to bring in pictures of loved ones who had an NHS experience – we were adamant that the patient was apparent in every single conversation we had and that the design for the programmes was genuinely rooted in the things that matter.
For some people, getting in touch with a very personal, human connection with their work was obviously uncomfortable and for others it felt intrusive. But really, how much more personal can the work we do be? Bringing that humanity to work is something we require front line staff to do every single day – and the times when they don’t I am sure are the times when things go wrong. Why should those of us who work away from the frontline be any less connected with the powerful emotional work we do?
A chief executive recently pulled her execs off our Top Leaders programme because it was too ‘navel gazing’; she wanted people to learn contract negotiation skills, not get in touch with who they are. I can understand her view but think she is wrong. I think I get it now; my comfort about being able to talk about my son’s experience; because that is actually one of the most important things about me at work, that it really matters. It is the thing I think that makes me good at what I do. Our personal stories about what matters to us at work is a hugely important motivator to do the right thing. I will make sure I give my all in the job I do and the skills I acquire, because it matters. Doing the business right is important because, for me, it is personal.